Part One
The Awakening
Recognise the roles, patterns and quiet forms of self-abandonment that have shaped the life you are living.
A new book by Rachma Abader
You Are an Amanah Too
A Woman’s Guide to Honouring Herself Without Losing the People She Loves
For the woman who has spent years being the person everyone else relies upon—and is ready to include herself in the life she has been building.
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For the capable woman
Who appears strong on the outside but privately feels depleted or disconnected.
For the woman in transition
Who knows something must change, even if she cannot yet name what comes next.
For the seeker
Who is yearning for a meaningful and purposeful life—and senses that the way forward begins by looking within.
The heart of the book
You were never meant to disappear from your own care.
You Are an Amanah Too is a compassionate personal-development guide for the woman who has become so practised at caring, carrying and accommodating that she no longer notices where she has disappeared from her own life.
It explores how inherited beliefs, family roles, people-pleasing and the stories we learn about love, duty and strength can quietly turn generosity into self-abandonment.
Through personal stories, thoughtful reflection and practical tools, Rachma Abader helps readers recognise their limits, listen to what their bodies have been communicating, pause before the automatic yes, and respond from their values rather than fear, guilt or obligation.
This is not an invitation to choose yourself instead of the people you love. It is an invitation to include yourself in your own care—so that you can live, give and love without losing yourself in the process.
“Your life is also a trust. Your needs, your voice and the woman you are becoming deserve a place within it.”
“The love is real. The care is real. You simply belong inside the circle too.”
The journey through the book
See clearly. Understand deeply. Return practically.
Part Two
The Understanding
Explore the beliefs, emotional maps, faith questions and learned protections beneath over-giving and depletion.
Part Three
The Return
Practise limits, intention, repair and self-honouring in ways that respect both your relationships and your own humanity.
Early reader reflections
Words from women who have already walked through these pages.
“The only word for this book is POWERFUL! I wish I could scream the words of this book from the rooftops!”Early reader
“I wish I had this book in my twenties.”Early reader
“An incredibly beautiful and intimate book.”Early reader
“The sincerity in your voice creates a rare intimacy between you and the reader.”Early reader
“The whole book is a page-turner for me.”Early reader
About the author
Rachma Abader
Rachma Abader is an author, transformation coach and professional trainer whose work helps women recognise the patterns that have pulled them away from themselves, reconnect with their own voice and create meaningful change without abandoning the people they love.
Born in South Africa and now based in Australia, Rachma draws on lived experience, community work and professional training in NLP, Time Line Therapy® and Hypnotherapy. Her work is shaped by the lens of her faith while remaining grounded in identity, human behaviour, relationships and personal transformation.
You Are an Amanah Too is her first book.
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